True friendships are divine connections. They can be reflections of our inner selves. Sometimes finding good friends can be difficult. But if you know what a true friend means, and commit to being one yourself, you can attract the right people. There is an African proverb that states, “show me your friends and I will show you your character.”
We’ve all heard the saying ‘birds of feather flock together’ and choosing our friends wisely is very important. How do you do that, you ask? Well, here is a small checklist to reference when choosing your new best friend.
- You usually have a few things in common with someone you consider a friend. Maybe its similar interests, like movies, music, or sports. You may attend the same school, live in the same neighborhood, or enjoy the same hobbies.
- A good friend is authentic. They can be themselves around you, and do not have to change who they are or how they treat you amongst others.
- They are non-judgmental. They enjoy the things you have in common and appreciate the differences between you both.
- Friendship is not a competition. Good friends do not try to out do or one-up each other. They are genuinely happy for each others successes, and celebrate one another.
- Honesty is a great characteristic in a best friend. He or she is willing to tell you the truth even when you may disagree with him or her.
- Friends act without expectation. If they do something for you, they do not hold it over your head, and demand something in return.
- Real friends have each others back. Friends do not sit on the side lines and watch you be bullied, or make a bad choice. A true friend will seek the help of someone who cares and be there for you when you need them.
Lastly, the greatest friend you can truly have in your life is YOURSELF. Be good to you and you will show others how to treat you. What are some of your tips for good a friendship?